Articles on all things sleep & dreams

Sunday, four in the afternoon. A client of mine, mid-scroll, mid-spreadsheet, mid something that felt urgent and turned out not to be. He'd told himself it was a rest day. By nine he was still at it. By midnight he was wired, not tired, staring at a ceiling that wouldn't cooperate. He called it a productive Sunday. His body called it something else. He was in bed at 4am. He's not unusual. Almost every client I work with can describe their own version of this night, in their o

Why having too much control over your sleep makes things worse

Before she tells me how she feels, she tells me the number. Seventy-eight. Sleep efficiency down four points. REM was low again. This happens most weeks, with most new clients who wear a ring or a strap to bed. I ask how they slept and they open an app first, as if the app might know before they do. I don't blame them for it. I want to be clear about that before I say anything else. But there's a pattern showing up across nearly every client who comes to me holding a screensh

Why You Stay Up Late Even When You're Exhausted You're tired. You've been tired since about 3 pm. And yet here you are, lying in bed at 1 am, scrolling through nothing in particular, fully aware that tomorrow is going to be brutal. If that sounds familiar, you're dealing with what's now widely known as revenge bedtime procrastination, and you are nowhere near alone in it. I asked a community of people directly what drives this for them, and the pattern that came back was clea

By Maša Nobilo / Restful Sleep You finished the proposal. You sent the invoice. You answered the last message. You cleaned the kitchen. And now, finally, you can rest. Except you can't. You lie down, and your body is exhausted, but your mind is still running tabs. You replay the call from this afternoon. You draft tomorrow's to-do list in your head. You think about the thing you said in that meeting three weeks ago. You wonder if you're doing enough. You probably are. You pro

Let's start with an uncomfortable truth. Most people who come to me with sleep problems aren't sleeping badly because of sleep. They're sleeping badly because of everything else: the rhythms they keep, the substances they consume, the things they stare at, the way they move (or don't), and the signals they send their nervous system all day long, then expect it to ignore by 10 pm. How you do anything is how you do everything. Sleep doesn't exist in isolation. It's a report car